Two wedding rings on a dark background, symbolising the end of a marriage and the reshaping of the future. Introduction Divorce is often described as a legal process, but the emotional journey that follows is far more complex. It is a profound life transition - one that touches identity, home, relationships, and the very sense of stability we rely on. Even when a separation feels like the right decision, it can still bring deep feelings of loss. You may grieve not only the r

A pair of worn work shoes on a wardrobe shelf besides a neatly hung white shirt and an empty hanger - symbolising the end of a working routine and the start of retirement. Introduction Retirement is often described as a reward - a well-earned rest after years of hard work. Yet for many people, it brings a mix of emotions that can feel surprising and sometimes unsettling. Beneath the surface of congratulations and celebrations, there can be uncertainty, loss, and even grief. W

A broken bridge, symbolising emotional distance and lost connection. Introduction When we think about loss, we often picture death or physical absence. Yet some of the deepest losses are those that happen while everyone is still alive. Estrangement - the breakdown or distancing of a once-close relationship - can leave a silence that is heavy, confusing, and full of unanswered questions. Whether it’s with a parent, child, sibling, or friend, estrangement is rarely simple. It m

“Take a hike.” It’s a phrase usually said with frustration, a way of telling someone to back off or give you space. But what if we borrowed it for something a little gentler? What if we said it to the voice inside us that never quite lets up - the one that points out our flaws, questions our worth, and measures our days against impossible standards? That inner critic so many of us know well. Imagine taking it for a walk. Not to silence it completely, but to listen differently

Person looking out of a window, reflecting the solitude and longing often felt with chronic illness. Introduction When your health changes, so much else changes with it. The plans you made, the routines you relied on, even the simple rhythms of daily life can start to feel uncertain. Chronic illness often brings a slow and quiet upheaval - one that others may not fully see or understand. You might still look the same on the outside, yet inside, everything feels different. Th

I’ve been thinking recently about how much time we spend keeping accounts in everyday life. We check bank balances, manage bills, and make sure everything adds up neatly on paper. From an early age, we’re taught that being “in credit” is a sign of security, while being “in debt” is something to avoid. But what about our emotional accounts? The quiet tally we keep of energy given, care offered, time spent, and feelings held? Many of us are diligent emotional accountants. We ke

A rainbow arc representing the Rainbow Bridge and the love that endures beyond loss. Introduction Over the last few years, I’ve lost both of my cats. They were brother and sister, curious and gentle in their own ways, and both were sadly killed in separate road accidents. I had brought them home during a challenging chapter of my life, and they became my quiet companions through change and uncertainty. Losing them felt like losing part of my everyday rhythm. Even now, small t

A plush bunny representing The Velveteen Rabbit, a story by Margery Williams When I was little, The Velveteen Rabbit was one of my favourite stories. I remember being drawn to the softness of it - the love between the boy and his toy rabbit, and the quiet magic of becoming “real.” At the time, I understood it as a simple tale about love and belonging. But as an adult, and as a counsellor, I’ve come to see it as something much deeper. There’s a line in the book where the Skin

An empty nest Introduction I was recently reading The New Neighbours by Claire Douglas, and one line stopped me in my tracks: “Our house, which had once felt so poky and overcrowded, will seem as empty as a beach out of season.” The image stayed with me. I could almost see it - the wide expanse of sand, the echo of waves, the emptiness where laughter once was. It made me think of the stillness that follows a full house once children have left home. What was once noisy, chaot

Sometimes I think life is a lot like punctuation. There are times we need a comma  - a pause to breathe, to take stock, to rest before continuing. The world moves fast, and it can feel as though we must keep going, yet the comma reminds us that pauses are part of the sentence too. Then there are full stops . Moments of ending. They can come through loss, change, or decisions that close one chapter and make space for another. Endings can be painful or freeing, sometimes both a

Woman walking along the beach Introduction October is Menopause Awareness Month , a time to shine a light on an experience that touches every part of a woman’s life yet is still often misunderstood or unspoken. While the menopause marks a biological shift, it is also a profound emotional and psychological transition. It can bring changes in identity, confidence, relationships, and how we see ourselves. In my counselling work, I often meet people who describe the menopause not

Light reflecting on water creating patterns As I settle into my second week back at work after my holiday, one quiet moment keeps coming back to me. I remember sitting in a walk-in pool, half-submerged, simply watching. The water moved gently, creating ripples that shimmered and shifted in the light. Shadows played across the surface, the sunlight dancing and refracting in ways that felt both calming and hypnotic. It struck me how mesmerising something so ordinary could be -

Candles lit for Baby Loss Awareness Week and the Wave of Light - a global movement to honour and remember babies gone too soon. Introduction As Baby Loss Awareness Week   comes to a close, people across the world will take part in the Wave of Light  this evening, lighting candles at 7pm to honour babies who are no longer with us. For an hour, homes and communities will be filled with a soft, gentle glow, creating a shared moment of remembrance and connection. It is a time tha

Introduction I first came across the term liminal spaces a few years ago through a friend. At the time, I wasn’t quite sure what it...

Introduction In my previous career in regulatory compliance, I became familiar with something called the regulatory sandbox . The...

Introduction When life takes an unexpected turn, our first response is often to focus on what has been lost. It might be a job that...

Introduction I recently posted on social media about Rachel Reeves shedding a few quiet tears in Parliament. A moment that quickly...

“Hope can be just as devastating as despair” It’s a line from a book I’m currently reading - Beautiful Ugly  by Alice Feeney, which I’d...

Introduction: Why Feeling Stuck Might Not Mean What You Think In my last blog , I wrote about how I’d been feeling stuck, navigating my...

Why Winter Can Leave You Feeling Stuck It’s coming up to 100 days since my last blog was published. That number has been sitting with...