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The “In-Between” Place - When Life No Longer Fits, But You’re Not Sure Why
Counselling in Ascot, and Online/Telephone
Sometimes change doesn’t announce itself.
There’s no clear ending, no diagnosis, no major event - just a quiet sense that something inside you has shifted.
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Life may look “fine” on the outside.
You may be functioning, coping, doing all the things you’re supposed to do.
But internally, something feels off. Misaligned. Unfamiliar.
You may not have the words for it yet - only the feeling that the life you’re living doesn’t quite match who you are anymore.
This is the in-between place:
not who you were, not yet who you’re becoming.
And it makes complete sense that you’re finding it hard.
When Life Feels “Fine” But Not Quite Right
This experience often shows up as:
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a quiet dissatisfaction that’s hard to explain
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feeling disconnected from yourself
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going through the motions
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struggling to enjoy things you once did
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knowing something needs to change, but not knowing what
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emotional flatness or fog
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feeling older versions of yourself slipping away
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a longing for something you can’t name
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It’s not dramatic.
But it’s real - and it has weight.
You Might Recognise Yourself in These Questions
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Why do I feel unsettled when nothing is “wrong”?
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Where did my motivation go?
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Is this burnout, sadness, boredom - or something else?
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Why do I feel disconnected from the life I built?
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What happened to the version of me who felt clearer or more alive?
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Is it normal to feel lost without a specific reason?
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What am I meant to do next?
This uncertainty isn’t a failure.
It’s often the beginning of change.
The Emotional and Practical Weight of the In-Between State
Emotionally
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feeling low, numb, or detached
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irritability or restlessness
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sadness without clear cause
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anxiety or overthinking
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emotional fatigue
Mentally
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difficulty concentrating
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feeling stuck or directionless
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overanalysing decisions
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questioning purpose or meaning
Socially
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withdrawing without meaning to
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feeling misunderstood or disconnected
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drifting from friendships or routines
Physically
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low energy
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tension or stress
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disrupted sleep
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exhaustion that doesn’t match your day
This is not you “being dramatic” or “ungrateful”.
It’s a sign that something inside you - identity, values, direction, purpose - is shifting.
Imagine…
…having space to explore this without needing to justify it - space where your uncertainty is valid, and where clarity can begin to form gently.
Imagine reconnecting with parts of yourself you’ve outgrown, forgotten, or overlooked - and discovering what this next chapter might want to be.
How Therapy Can Help
Therapy offers a gentle, reflective space to:
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explore the parts of life that no longer feel right
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understand the deeper reasons behind your unease
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reconnect with your identity, needs, values, and desires
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explore what you’ve outgrown and what you’re moving toward
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soften the pressure to “figure everything out”
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find groundedness within uncertainty
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build clarity about what you want next
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make sense of your internal changes
You don’t need a crisis to benefit from therapy.
Sometimes the quiet shifts are the most meaningful ones.
Why I’m a Good Fit for This Work
Much of my therapeutic work centres on identity, meaning, and life direction - the deeper layers beneath transitions, uncertainty, or quiet emotional shifts.
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I understand how unsettling it can feel when life looks the same on the outside but feels different inside.
My approach is warm, steady, and non-judgemental, creating space for honest exploration without pressure.
You don’t have to explain it neatly.
You just need to bring whatever you’re feeling - and we’ll begin there.
Working Together
Sessions are available:
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in person in Ascot, Berkshire
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online
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by telephone
You’re welcome whether this feeling is new, longstanding, or something you’ve been carrying quietly for years.
Next Steps
If you’re in the in-between place - not who you were, not yet who you’re becoming - you don’t have to navigate it alone.
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⬤ Contact me to arrange a free 15-minute consultation.
Together, we can explore what this shift means for you and how counselling may support you.
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