Chronic Health Changes & Identity Shifts

Counselling in Ascot, Online and by Telephone

When your health changes, your life often changes with it - not only in practical ways, but in the quiet, internal ways that are harder to name.

A diagnosis, a flare-up, a long-term condition, or a gradual decline can reshape how you see yourself, what you can manage, the pace you move at, and the version of life you thought you’d be living.

You may feel grief for the person you used to be.
You may feel frustrated by your limits, or overwhelmed by the uncertainty of what lies ahead.
You may feel as though your body is no longer predictable or no longer your ally.

If you’re here, you may be trying to heal not just physically - but emotionally, mentally, and socially.

When Your Body Changes, Everything Can Feel Different

Chronic health challenges often affect:

identity - “I don’t feel like myself anymore”
confidence - in your body, resilience, or abilities
independence - needing more support or having less control
relationships - feeling like a burden, misunderstood, or disconnected
daily life - pacing, planning, fatigue, unpredictability
emotional wellbeing - sadness, frustration, fear, exhaustion

Health conditions can force changes you didn’t choose and take away options you thought you’d always have.
It makes sense that the adjustment is hard.

You Might Recognise Yourself in These Questions

Who am I now that my body has changed?
Why do I feel guilty for needing rest or help?
How do I cope with the loss of the old me?
How can I explain this to people who don’t understand?
What do I do with the frustration or fear I carry?
How do I live with unpredictability - good days, bad days, unknown days?
Can I still build a meaningful life within these limits?

These questions are not signs of weakness - they are signs of adapting to something profoundly challenging.

The Emotional and Practical Weight of Chronic Health

Chronic illness affects far more than symptoms.
It touches your inner world, your relationships, and the rhythm of daily life.

Emotionally

grief for your former self
resentment or anger
fear about the future
sadness, shame, or guilt
frustration with limits
loneliness or isolation

Socially

withdrawing from plans or friendships
feeling misunderstood
being left out of life at your old pace
navigating assumptions or minimisation

Practically

managing appointments, medication, or treatment
balancing work with energy limits
adapting routines, hobbies, or expectations
declining invitations
budgeting around health needs

Psychologically

feeling “less than” or “a burden”
comparing yourself to your old life
feeling out of sync with the world around you

None of this means you are failing.
It means your life shifted in ways that challenge every layer of being human.

Imagine…

…moving through your days with more gentleness, more self-trust, and a deeper understanding of what your body and whole self truly need.

Imagine reconnecting with identity, meaning, and purpose - even as your life evolves in ways you didn’t expect.

How Therapy Can Help

Therapy offers a steady, compassionate space to:

process the grief that often comes with health changes
explore who you are beyond your diagnosis
rebuild confidence and self-worth
understand and soften guilt or frustration
navigate relationships and communication
manage the emotional impact of unpredictability
adjust your life without losing yourself
find meaning and purpose within your current reality

This isn’t about positive thinking.
It’s about being supported, understood, and met exactly where you are.

Why I’m a Good Fit for This Work

I specialise in supporting people through life transitions, including those brought on by health changes.

My approach is gentle, steady, and deeply attuned to the emotional and identity impacts of chronic illness.

I understand the layers: the grief for what has changed, the adjustment to a slower pace, the frustration of limits, and the quiet courage it takes to keep going.

My role isn’t to fix your health - it’s to support you, the person living within it.

Working Together

Sessions are available:

in person in Ascot, Berkshire
online (UK-wide)
by telephone (UK-wide)

You’re welcome whether your condition is newly diagnosed, long-standing, fluctuating, or still being explored.

Next Steps

If your health has changed and you’re feeling the emotional, practical, or identity impact of that shift, you don’t have to navigate it alone.

⬤ Contact me to arrange a free 15-minute consultation.
Together, we can explore what this transition means for you and how counselling may support you.

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